Friday, September 10, 2021

The Schmigado's and Schmigadon't's of Mixed Orientation Relationships

Spoilers about minor plot points in Schmigadoon are contained below.

Schmigadoon is a creative new meta musical about … being in a musical. It’s funny, smart, has some earworm songs, and boasts an outstanding cast. But at its heart, this musical is about finding true love. Because it has some characters who are from the cynical modern world, and some from the idyllic musical world, Schmigadoon finds a really nice balance between being ironic, and being earnest. So its message of finding true love also falls squarely in the center of the irony-earnest Venn diagram. I would sum up its message as “Relationships are not perfect and never will be, but you can find happiness in the imperfection. And THAT is true love.” 

The relationship that intrigued me most in Schmigadoon was the marriage between Mayor Aloysius Menlove (cute name) and his wife Florence. I was intrigued partly because the characters are in an emotionally interesting situation, partly because there’s not much said about them in the musical, and partly because Alan Cumming is just such a captivating actor. The mayor is a closeted gay man, married to a straight woman. He comes out of the closet during the course of the six episodes, and expresses his attraction to another closeted character, Reverend Howard Layton, another closeted gay man who is in a similar situation with his straight wife Mildred (played by the indomitable Kristin Chenoweth).

These relationships between a gay spouse and a straight spouse are sometimes referred to as “mixed orientation relationships”. The two mixed orientation relationships in Schmigadoon are as unique as the individuals involved in them. The Reverend and his wife have a lopsided, emotionally abusive relationship. Yet the Mayor and his wife have a strong bond and a truly beautiful love for each other. The Mayor’s wife is proud of him for being authentic, and they both express their strong love for each other. (Just not, you know, bedroom love.)

There are so few positive portrayals of mixed orientation relationships. In truth, many fail. Most are difficult. Schmigadoon is no different. This was a comedic parody series, but also a show with heart. Yet the portrayal of the Mayor and his wife may be one of the most positive portrayals of a gay man and his straight wife I’ve ever seen in a piece of entertainment. I’m thinking of Tobias & Lindsay Fünke from Arrested Development. Frank & Cathy Whitaker from Far From Heaven. Ennis & Alma Del Mar and Jack & Lureen Twist from Brokeback Mountain. Those relationships are either comedic or painful. Or both. There is pain inherent in the mixed orientation marriage of the Mayor of Schmigadoon, but there’s also a sweet love and understanding. We don’t find out what happens with the Mayor and his wife, or what happens with the Mayor and the Reverend other than that they share a simple kiss. And maybe that’s for the best, since we don’t always know what path our own journeys will take us on in life. But in the meantime, we can appreciate the pain and the joys that people in mixed orientation relationships feel. We can celebrate diversity in relationships. And we can just love without an agenda, as Schmigadoon encourages.

Even if it’s not, you know, bedroom love.

Wednesday, September 8, 2021

Adventure is Out--SQUIRREL!!!


If you’ve checked out some of my cosplay posts in the past, you may have noticed I’m a fan of Up’s lovable pup Dug. Fan is probably putting it lightly. So when Disney Plus announced that it was doing a series of shorts starring our favorite doggo, I got excited. This series is perfect for anyone who has a dog, had a dog, or loves watching dogs on Instagram.

Squirrel

The first short is just full of dog antics. Gotta wake Carl up, gotta get in his lap, gotta get in the way. He tries so hard to do the one thing Carl asked him to do… though he wrecks the flowerbed, gets stuck in the tree, and scares away the bird. Even when they end up in mischief, they’re good dogs and we’re lucky to have them. Like Dug says, “pretending to obey is hard.” I hear you, Dug. I hear you. But we can always do better tomorrow.


Puppies

This short could have been called “fatherhood in ten minutes”. The whole time Dug is playing defense with the visiting pups. Guard my stuff, get attacked, run away. Same way with my very active little girl: no climbing on the dishwasher, don’t pull my hair, etc. But you can never be too annoyed or stressed for too long. She flashes me that smile and she has me wrapped around her finger again. In the end, she needs guidance and love.

Smell

It’s all about finding joy in the simple things. Dug loves smelling the flowers, the dirt, everything. And in doing so, he was able to save a house from burning down (despite Carl thinking he was just up to mischief). Just goes to show that even when dogs seem to get into mischief, they’re good dogs.


Flowers

I always feel bad for dog owners during the fireworks season--which encompasses all of July in Utah. I know the scene in the living room and his crazy dream was meant to be comedic and everything, but I just felt so bad for Dug. I just wanted to give him a big hug (which I’ve done before). I’m glad he got the noise cancelling headphones in the end.

Science

Dug might be the most wholesome creature, but even he could use a lesson or two in empathy and communication. Russell’s science experiment gave Dug the opportunity to learn from the neighborhood animals. Despite his naivety, Dug learned compassion for the squirrel and the bird. The world needs more of that: compassion. We could all do with being a bit more like dogs.


With the passing of Carl’s voice actor, Ed Asner, I doubt we’ll get more of these Dug shorts. But I’m glad he could grace us with some wholesome entertainment. There’s a lot to be learned from Mr. Frederickson, Russell, and especially Dug, so I’m sure we’ll return to Paradise Falls again soon.

Adventure is out there! 

Monday, September 6, 2021

What Shang-Chi (kind of) taught me about the Gospel

Shang-Chi was never any of the big names in Marvel Universe that someone would recognize, in fact, some have discussed how he disappeared into obscurity for a while. With this new movie, he is anything but obscure. The movie was imaginative, beautiful, funny, and definitely an adventure into a new world the MCU hasn’t yet seen. New animals. New magic. New worlds. So much fun and so many points that were so silly that made me laugh! I'd hoped for some of that, but I hadn't expected all of it. The thing that I definitely wasn’t expecting was to feel the Spirit once again testify to me of truths I’ve learned time and time again.

I remember watching Kung Fu Panda 3 for the first time, with my kids at home. I remember the ending (no spoiler, that one’s been out a while… and if you haven’t seen it, which you likely haven’t, you’re in for a surprise) being beautiful, colorful, silly, and wonderful. I also remember turning to my wife and saying “I… have a testimony of this movie…” and trying to even understand what that meant for myself, mostly because it didn’t really make sense to me that I could have a testimony of a Jack Black movie teaching true principles..




KFP 3 Recap: Po discovers that his father is alive, and that his people used to know powerful magic. He goes on a journey and meets and entire Panda village! To protect them from a coming threat, he tries to teach kung fu to the entire village, forcing them to learn the same lessons he learned. It goes terribly. Later he realizes that he’s doing everything wrong. Instead of forcing a square peg into a round hole, he changes the hole to be square. He focuses on embracing each of their unique strengths, the skills they already have, and enhancing them. Once he helps them see that they already have a superpower, they all become unstoppable.

He then fights a spirit warrior, who’s surprised at Po’s abilities:

Kai: Who are you?

Po: I’ve been asking myself the same question. Am I the son of a panda? Or the son of a goose? A student or a teacher? Turns out, I’m all of them. … I am the dragon warrior.

Now, this may seem like a simple kid’s lesson, but the Spirit touched me there because I had already learned this lesson. When I put myself into a calling at church, a responsibility, and try to make the calling mine, magic happens. If I try to do the calling like the last person, or like someone else I saw do it, it’s just not the same. When I trust myself to do *my* best, to be my best, standing with God, miracles happen. I’ve seen it.

Am I a son? A father? A man? A mountain biker? A taco enthusiast? I'm actually the person who doesn't like to put labels on myself. If we view any single person as a single label (an addict or someone with anxiety or a billionaire), we ignore all of these other parts about that person. It's easy to do to strangers and celebrities, but we do that to those around us too. And to ourselves. - "I'm just a klutz." "I'm fat." "I'm a failure." For me, the parts of myself make up who I am, and when I've learned to accept the good and bad pieces (the dark and the light), I feel more confident in who I am an can stop hating pieces of myself I wish weren't there. Can I change those? Yes, but that should be from a place of wanting to grow, not to "fix" who I am.

As we learn from Dear Evan Hansen, "I'm me, and that's enough."

Back to the movie.

(minor spoilers, nothing big)

As Shang-Chi is training and being taught various martial arts, his mother teaches him about looking inward to know who he is and accepting the dark and the light. As most people do, he struggles with that concept at points.

(maybe some bigger spoilers, but this is like saying Iron Man is/was a billionaire drunken genius… it’s more so defining who he is..)

Shang-Chi is the son of a leader of the criminal underworld, who trains him to take his place. Ultimately, Shang-Chi doesn’t want to be evil and fights to help people.

I read another article talking about how Shang-Chi eventually became one of the most hated characters in the Marvel Universe. Once he defeats his father and takes over, he tries to do good with his father’s organization. The criminal underworld no longer trusts him, but the good guys don’t trust the organization either. Shang-Chi just has to stand alone, trying to do what’s right, when nobody will really accept him. He’s confident who he is, though. I feel like this reminds me of the world in which we now live, where sneezing seems to offend someone and it feels like we sometimes have to walk on eggshells. I really wish we all had more empathy to learn and understand from each other, and to allow others to make decisions differently than myself. We need more of that.



Was the movie also fun? Yes. There were lots of great moments to laugh. Did you know they actually cast Awkafina before anyone else? And she did a great job of keeping things lively and still explored parts of herself we hadn’t really seen before.

Was it full of action? Oh yeah. Some of it was pretty fast moving, like a Disney Kung-Fu movie, but some of it was also graceful and beautiful and reminiscent of Korra learning to airbend.

Have I ever seen a movie with Michelle Yeoh that I didn’t enjoy? Not yet.


Also, Simu Liu. Despite the recent controversies on Kim’s Convenience and the writing/directing there, that show has been such a fun thing to watch. This guy has been a great character for years on it and I’m excited to see him grow into new and bigger things. He definitely did a great job, and we had one of the most unique origin stories we’ve seen in years.

- Garrett

Friday, September 3, 2021

Living by Revelation in a Time of Fluxx


(Guest Post by Matt)

I’m really into board games; I love playing them and teaching others how to play. The games I like to play are built around mechanics: worker placement, hand-management, set collecting, deck-building, cooperative, legacy, even solo. The way to win these games involves using the mechanics to advance the game as well as earn points. If you ever get confused or have a question about the mechanics, you consult the rulebook to get an answer to your question.  

There’s a fun hand-management game I like to play called Fluxx. The rules for this game are a little tricky. You see, there’s a base set of rules that are in play no matter what - rules like always draw a card at the beginning of your turn, and play a card or discard a card during your turn. Then there’s the rules that you don’t know about. At some point you might have to trade your cards with another player, draw extra cards, play all the cards in your hand on your turn, or discard your hand and draw a completely new one. 


Article of Faith 9 states: “We believe all that God has revealed, all that He does now reveal, and we believe that He will yet reveal many great and important things pertaining to the Kingdom of God.”

This statement about revelation is a lot like the card game Fluxx. From the base rules that exist when you start the game to the rules that come into play when they are revealed as you play the game, revelation acts similarly, giving us a spiritual foundation to begin our journey in life, and then, as we are given further knowledge from our Heavenly Father through the prophet, shaping the way we live our life until we pass from this existence. 

Revelation is not something new for the Lord’s church. One of the unique things about our church is that we believe that God still speaks to and guides his children through a prophet, and that the words of the prophet are the words of God: ‘whether by mine own voice or by the voice of my servants, it is the same.’

The way the rules are set up in Fluxx, as new rules come into play, they are meant to be followed, giving everyone the same chance to participate in the game and, to the best of their abilities, win the game. The difference between Fluxx and real life: everyone can win in real life, and the reward is ‘The immortality and eternal life of man.’


Thankfully for us, the words of God revealed by His servants the prophets are not as random as the rules for Fluxx. God’s revelations pertain to our salvation, and the things we can do to draw closer to our Savior and feel the Spirit. The Lord desires that each of us use our testimonies of the truth of the Gospel and its teachings to benefit the lives of those around us. In this way we show our willingness to follow the Lord, and serve Him: ‘Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.’

In addition to the revelations given to prophets for the church as a whole, we are able to receive revelation for ourselves and for our families. Lorenzo Snow said “This is the grand privilege of every Latter-day Saint … that it is our right to have the manifestations of the Spirit every day of our lives.” It’s a little bit like we are all playing our own version of Fluxx, and we have access to a rulebook that is designed specifically for us, to help win the game. 

President Nelson has given us guidance about seeking personal revelation, and how to receive it: “Pray in the name of Jesus Christ about your concerns, your fears, your weaknesses—yes, the very longings of your heart. And then listen! Write the thoughts that come to your mind. Record your feelings and follow through with actions that you are prompted to take. As you repeat this process day after day, month after month, year after year, you will “grow into the principle of revelation.”


You don’t have to wonder about what is true. You do not have to wonder whom you can safely trust. Through personal revelation, you can receive your own witness that the Book of Mormon is the word of God, that Joseph Smith is a prophet, and that this is the Lord’s Church. Regardless of what others may say or do, no one can ever take away a witness born to your heart and mind about what is true.

Just as mentioned by President Nelson, revelation can be about anything that we are questioning. What better way to draw closer to our Savior and our Heavenly Father than by asking them for guidance when we are struggling or need help in gaining knowledge and making choices for ourselves? In the New Testament, in James, we are told: “Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.”

Wednesday, September 1, 2021

Best Build-A-Bears You Have To Have Right Now

 Yeah I know this is a fluffy post for me but I'm busy this week so cut me some slack. 

In the last week I've had three people message me separately with Build-A-Bear's new Umbreon plushie. Maybe it's because I have a cat named Umbry. Maybe it's because they know how much I love Pokemon. Maybe it's because I have an extensive collection of stuffed animals for a mid 30's something male with no children. Either way, I wanted to show off some of my favorites currently available and squee over some cute squishies. 

BTW this is NOT a paid advertisment for Build-A-Bear Workshop, but if they want us to make it sponsored hit us up. 

10: Vaporeon (Online Exclusive) 

Don't get me wrong, the Umbreon is adorable, but I gotta go with my home boy Vaporeon. He's always been my favorite of the Eeveeolutions and here he's the most adorable he's ever been. I personally don't care for his little outfit since to me it's just a hat on a hat situation, but it's cute if you want the bundle. As for me my Vaporeon will show up naked. 



Okay so you can technically just buy the Frodo outfit and put it on any bear so this is really more a reccomendation for the outfit. The bear itself is just a bear with "Lord of the Rings" stitched onto its foot. Oh stop my pounding heart. But the outfit- adorable little green vest AND fuzzy Hobbit feet?! It's a must have. Buy it with the bear. Buy a different bear. Put it on Vaporeon. Who cares, just get it. 


Speaking as a person who happily owns a two foot diameter Grogu because he saw it at Costco and had to have it, I feel the Baby Yoda thing is getting a bit oversaturated. The Child at Build-A-Bear is cute, but this Jawa is everything I'd want in a stuffed Jawa that I never knew I wanted. And put a wizard hat on him and you easily get Vivi from Final Fantasy 9



So if I buy a Tom Nook stuffie will he take some of my debt off? Just curious. 




Celebrating the 70th anniversary of the release of the movie, we got an entire set at Build-A-Bear. I couldn't decide to go with the card suits on Alice's dress, or the Queen of Hearts looking so regal, or that cute Mad Hatter... So I'll just put them all on. 




Had to throw in Stitch. They built him so well he almost looks like he's going to destroy a city. I'd help. 



Do you know how many people these days don't know who Snoopy is? People talk about required reading in schools and argue over weather to read To Kill A Mockingbird meanwhile Peanuts goes unread. Ridiculous! Anyway look at his little scarf! 


The diva of the sea is ready to cast her spell on... I don't know it's a bear with fantastic makeup, what else can I say? The tentcles are removable so you could technically turn any stuffie into an Ursula creature and build your Lovecraftian nightmare you've always wanted, so that's also a big plus. 



Remember in the 90's when Taz was a big thing? He even had his own show briefly which made no sense since he was the only one without verbal skills and his sister (I think) had a pony tail... Anyway thanks to Space Jam: A New Legacy and his connection to the Rick and Morty cameo now I want one. I really am just one step above Taz. 



The older I get the more I realize that Eeyore wasn't depressed he was just tired and wanted to be left alone. That's just plain relatable. This Eeyore would make the perfect companion for just sitting around, having a streaming binge, and decompressing from work. Plus he looks incredibly soft. 


-JOE


















Monday, August 30, 2021

Comic Con Bingo


With the pandemic and everything, it's been a while since I've been able to go to a Con (virtual conventions just don't appeal to me--meeting a celebrity online doesn't feel like actually meeting them). Cons are coming back though. Ryan went to one this month (he’s got another this next month) and I'll be at Dallas Fan Expo in a couple weeks (along with FanX happening that same weekend). Regardless of which Con you attend, there are always some consistencies. Enough so that I made bingo cards to help you enjoy the experience. So put on your favorite cosplay and save one of these bingo cards. Let's have some fun! 





Friday, August 27, 2021

Star Wars Workout


With The Bad Batch over and as we wait for the next season of The Mandalorian, some of you may be going through Star Wars withdrawals. Personally, I'm working my way through Clone Wars (I'll be done within the next week). Regardless of what you're watching, if you're trying to connect with the Force, you can get moving doing it. So put on an episode of The Mandalorian, a Bad Batch story, or (heaven forbid) The Last Jedi and enjoy a workout to the tune of a galaxy far far away.

Disclaimer: While I am a licensed physical therapy provider, I am not a personal trainer or a medical practitioner. Partner as necessary with your doctor prior to engaging in any diet or excise programs. If any of these exercises cause increased pain, stop the exercise immediately.
***Exercises updated January 2024 to account for what I've learned practicing physical therapy. This workout is intended to work without any equipment, but feel free to add small dumbbells or bands as you're safely able.


Wednesday, August 25, 2021

Scene Dissection: "Yeah, What a lucky girl"

I'm always trying to find interesting series to bring to the blog, some hit like our Friday Creature Feature, others fail like my videos doing board game reviews, but let's try this one:

This series will take a scene from a film, TV show, book, comic book etc. and dissect it down to its bare components and why it's significant to both the piece and to culture in general. This lets me flex my research muscles and get some use out of my degree as it sits rotting away in its frame in my den. 

With all that out of the way, let's talk about Who Framed Roger Rabbit.



Setting the Scene

Who Framed Roger Rabbit takes place in a 1930's world where all our beloved cartoon characters are real and are hired by studios to make cartoons. How they come into being nobody says and that's not why we're here. Roger is a toon along the same lines as the old Looney Tunes/Tex Avery line, and his boss, RK Maroon is having trouble getting quality acting out of the rabbit. He hires our protagonist, Eddie Valiant, played by the late Bob Hoskins, to get some saucy photos of Roger's wife, Jessica, because this will chill him out... somehow... 

Later it turns out they were part of a plot to frame Roger, hence the title, but whatever. 

We find ourselves with Eddie in the Ink and Paint Club, a place where toons perform onstage to a human audience. After an absolutely BRILLIANT scene of Daffy Duck having a piano duel with Donald Duck, Eddie is ready to see this Jessica perform so he can follow her later and get his pictures. 

Just before Jessica's performance, Eddie runs into an old friend, Betty Boop. She's working as the cigar girl at the club (Okay, this job doesn't exist anymore, but it was a woman who sold cigars and cigarettes to patrons of night clubs. Kind of a lower end job). Betty tells Eddie that "Times are hard since toons went to color", before doing her iconic line and causing a mini Betty Boop craze that lasted through the 90's. 

Literally, it was this one scene that sparked it. 



The lights dim as the band starts up and men rush to the stage eager to see Jessica. Another patron, Marvin Acme, starts dousing himself in cologne and straightening his tie, Betty telling Eddie that "Mr. Acme never misses a night when Jessica performs." to which Eddie replies "Gotta thing for rabbits, huh?" 

Keep that in mind it'll become important later. 

As the music starts up and that sultry voice starts to sing, we get the reveal that Jessica Rabbit, wife of Roger, is a beautiful vixen with a voice that could melt butter. A stunned Eddie says "She's married to Roger Rabbit" and Betty says "Yeah, what a lucky girl." then picks Eddie's jaw up off the floor. 

Foreshadowing and Origins

Fun fact: Who Framed Roger Rabbit was originally a book named Who Censored Roger Rabbit?" In it we get the origin of Jessica and why she looks the way she does. In the novel, the toons are characters from comics, and Jessica is from a dirty pulp comic that was an early form of pornography. In the film they leave Jessica's origins out and just imply that toons the viewing public have never seen before exist in this world like her and Roger. 

Now seeing Betty Boop wasn't just a random happenstance, Betty is significant to Jessica. Old Betty Boop cartoons sit at an awkward point between the slightly dirty comics and the wacky cartoons that were being made, with Betty usually portraying the naïve innocent but scandalously saucy female. Like Jessica her appearance was partially for male audiences to have something to look at that was a bit naughty while the kids watched the fun cartoons, so for her to be at the introduction of Jessica foreshadows what we're about to see. 




Remember the line Eddie said about Acme having a thing for rabbits? Up until now we've had no idea what Jessica Rabbit was (the film was made in 1988 so I know most of us NOW know what Jessica looks like but bear with me). All we'd met in new toons were Roger, his foul talking baby friend, and an octopus in the background of the club. The implication to the audience was that Jessica Rabbit would be like Roger, a zany cartoon rabbit that would be a living migraine to work with, but instead we get a sultry vixen walk onstage. 

For the rest of the film Jessica is constantly subverting expectations, making us think she's a concerned wife, a seductive temptress, or even the villain at points. Her first subversion is with her simple existence, not being what the audience would envision when they think of the wife of a cartoon rabbit in red overalls. 

Why She's Lucky

Betty's line and the title of this piece is an idea that comes up a few times throughout the film: People envy Jessica for being married to Roger. Toon logic seems to dictate that the more wacky toons are the more popular ones, with Roger gushing over Goofy and generally unfunny toons getting low paying jobs. Roger then would be a highly sought after rabbit in the Toontown dating market, while in the human world Jessica's beauty and singing talent might be the more appealing piece. In yet another subversion of expectation, we see that most of the toons see Roger as a highly respected actor, while the ones who chase Jessica, like Acme and for a moment Eddie later, are all human. 

Jessica meanwhile, is a toon, and is deeply in love with Roger. When asked all she says is "He makes me laugh," as though that's all he'd need to do. She was willing to seduce and kill anyone who she thought would harm Roger, and take the fall if necessary to save her beloved "honey bunny".  Jessica is one of Disney's best written female characters for the subversive elements she brings to the film, and it all starts with one reveal, that she is married to Roger Rabbit and that she's a lucky girl. 

-JOE

Monday, August 23, 2021

All That Matters Is How You See Yourself: Awesome Con 2021!

I went to the awesome Awesome Con in Washington DC. Yes, it was awesome. The first in person Awesome Con since the pandemic. One of the panels I attended was called “Cosplay Is Limitless”, hosted by the Philadelphia Avengers. I wasn’t expecting much from this session, just some fun cosplay tips and ideas. 

But what I got instead was a powerful lesson about self identity and colorblind acceptance. The group showed the meme above, of a little boy wearing a cardboard box and holding flashlights, but his shadow is Iron Man. The meme says, “All that matters is how you see yourself.” 

The Philadelphia Avengers, especially Lady J, shared how they dress as whatever characters they want, regardless of their race, gender, body type, or whatever other “social norms” might usually prevent them from wearing the costumes they want. Even more amazing, the cosplay group admonished the participants to respond with kindness when trolls make fun of them for not looking exactly like their characters. Your weight, your gender, your ethnicity — they shouldn’t stop you from doing what you want to do.

What a powerful message. Not just for cosplay, but for life. We are all working to improve ourselves and to self actualize. This concept was further emphasized when we went to the Pride Squadron session and they talked about their philosophies of cosplay, which mirrors their mantras in life. Live your dreams! Be who you want to be! Make your life whatever you want it to be. And all that other good juju stuff. Everything is AWESOME!


To celebrate diversity and self actualization, here are some fun cosplay highlights from Awesome Con 2021!







All that matters is how you see yourself.